Spanking routine

My husband and I have agreed that spanking is never done with anger. If it has to be administered, it follows some routine.

1. Discussion
My husband tells me what is wrong and why he needs to punish me. I can disagree and explain. If I give a sound reason to prove that I have done nothing wrong, the process stops here.

2. Corner time
Depending on the seriousness, I am told to stand facing the wall for 5-10 minutes and think about what I did wrong. If it is the second time I did something wrong, I will be made to hold my ears like this. It seems to be a punishment originated in Indian or Chinese schools, but really, pulling the earlobes while keeping the arms at this angle for a mere 5 minutes is really something. If you don't believe this, next time you can try it (or make someone do it).

3. Spanking
Hand spanking is always on bare bottom OTK Spanking with a hanger / the nursery cane(s) is often with me standing still / bending over the bed.

4. Reflection
Essay writing to reflect on what I have done and what can be done to avoid similar things from happening in future. If the essay is substandard I will need to rewrite it until it is acceptable.

5. Follow up
Discussion on my ideas in the essay and whether extra punishment is needed. Extra punishment often includes one of these: maintenance hand spanking, early bedtime, no TV & YouTube, no Facebook & Instagram (or any other social networking apps), writing lines with my left hand (I'm right handed), no snacks and sweets, holding ear punishment (see #2 above) for five minutes before bedtime

6. Compliment
If i do not make the same mistake again for the next three months, I get praised. Sometimes even got a gift that I really wanted!

 Sigh. This actually reminds me of my remaining  3 days with no TV, no YouTube, no fb, no instagram, no chips, no anything.

Grace period for spanking

Unlike the conventional christian domestic discipline, not all bad behaviors are always punished at my home. Why?

When I consistently get punished for the same issue, it means the punishment.does not work. Sometimes it leads to a different punishment or a more severe punishment, but most of the time it brings a halt to the punishment.

We will then discuss what has been happening and find out the possible solutions.

I will then be given a grace period of three to six months with no punishment to try out the plan and keep a weekly progress report. During that time, I'm likely to be making the same mistake, but there're always signs of improvement -- if not, I will have to change my plan and ensure improvement.

After the grace period, I am still allowed to make the same mistake for up to three times. It does take time to learn from our failures. For the first three times, I am given three smacks on bare bottom with the hand for warning. Fortunately the idea of a grace period seems to work quite well, and I have never made it to more than two times.

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In case it fails, we will go back to the starting point and discuss whether we need a longer grace period, an alternative (e.g. Giving me some help), or the problem simply cannot / should not be solved.

The whole process might sound complicated but this prevents domestic discipline from becoming domestic violence.

The first punishment this month

I'm writing this sitting on my sore bottom. It was just 4 strokes of a thin nursery cane but each one stunk a lot. By the time I made it to the third stroke I just couldn't help but covering my bottom with my hands.

As you can probably guess, this earned me 2 extra strokes on each thigh.

I looked at the mirror and saw a few horizontal lines across my bottom and on my thigh, like these:

Photo from Google. I'm too shy to show you mine.

Look at them the next 2 days when you get changed. They are there to remind you to be a good girl. I was told as I was given a hug.

But this is not the end of my punishment.

Now I have to type my 800 word passage to explain the root cause of my bad behavior today and make one feasible suggestion with an action plan to permanently stop that behavior. Hopefully I won't be asked to rewrite it. Please wish me luck.

spanking implements at home

hi, my name is jenny. I used to be spanked as a kid, but not anymore after I turned 10. At school, corporal punishment was already banned. I have no idea why sometimes I want to be disciplined, especially when im not a "good girl".

Now, when im naughty, I get spanked.

I do not have any wooden hairbrush, paddle or heavy cane at home, because they can easily cause bruises or caning marks that stay for a long time.

Instead these are what I am spanked with:

1. Hand
It is always on bare bottom and used as a warning.

2. IKEA hanger

This is used for warm-up of punishment spanking or maintenance spanking. The flat side is like a plastic ruler and stinks quite a bit if used on bare bottom.












3. Nusery canes

These are used for punishment. The thinner one on the right stinks more and leaves temporary red marks on the bottom for a day or two.

The thicker one on the left normally does not leave any mark and stinks less than the thinner one most of the time, but when full strength is used, it can leave some red marks on the bottom that later becomes transparent -- you can feel it when you touch the skin.

When I am naughty, I am often spanked with the thin nursery cane with my clothes on, but when the bad behavior remains, I am often told to take off my pants and underpants. Luckily the spanking often stops before my eyes are welled up with tears.

The scariest thing is not being spanked with one cane but two! So far this has happened to me once, when I used fb when social networks or TV was banned as a punishment. Every single stroke of the two canes left two red marks on my bottom, and every stroke caused double the pain. I never forget the pain but it's never easy to be a good girl all the time and not to be given the next punishment.