No punishment after our long, serious discussion at Christmas. It’s because we really want to learn to create a spanking-free environment for our future children. This won’t come overnight, and the first thing is to change the way we interact.
But you know it’s hard to change dramatically from being disciplined with nursery cane and paddle and hand spanking on bare bottom to not being disciplined—- at all.
We have adopted these two methods:
1. Keep a journal and write down whatever happens during the day. Both of us do it, and we don’t need to exchange our journals at all. Somebody called it a cognitive way to help oneself reflect and take control of his/her own life
2. When my husband thinks I’m being a bad girl he’d keep a straight face and call my name, like “Jenny!”. No consequence but just a hint. My husband said eventually we’ll get rid of this, but let’s make it a temporary measure for now.
So far they have worked.
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