Dealing with procrastination with strategies

It’s hard to bring myself to start working on a job assignment. I have been quite unproductive these days.

I told my husband my problem.

He said if this happened in 2017, he’d fetch the cane and I’ll have a very sore behind, and I’ll start working right away with my pants taken down, and I get more spanking if I get distracted again. But we’ve agreed to change our way of thinking...

He suggested that I
Break down the job into a few parts and do it bit by bit by focusing on one thing at a time so I don’t get distracted. Make a plan and take a short break after getting each part properly done.

My husband said I shouldn’t tell him how I’m going to do it. I need to decide on my own.

2017: immediate punishment
2018: Problem-based strategies

Will it work?

Let’s see.

Calling my name

No punishment after our long, serious discussion at Christmas. It’s because we really want to learn to create a spanking-free environment for our future children. This won’t come overnight, and the first thing is to change the way we interact.

But you know it’s hard to change dramatically from being disciplined with nursery cane and paddle and hand spanking on bare bottom to not being disciplined—- at all.

We have adopted these two methods:
1. Keep a journal and write down whatever happens during the day. Both of us do it, and we don’t need to exchange our journals at all. Somebody called it a cognitive way to help oneself reflect and take control of his/her own life

2. When my husband thinks I’m being a bad girl he’d keep a straight face and call my name, like “Jenny!”. No consequence but just a hint. My husband said eventually we’ll get rid of this, but let’s make it a temporary measure for now.

So far they have worked.

No spanking so what’s next?

Back home from holiday.

No mood for doing anything at all. Totally holiday mood.

My husband is back to work but I’m working from home these two weeks. Then my husband came home and saw paper bags from Mc Donald’s.

Honestly I had it three times in one day. Too lazy to cook.

If this happened in 2017 I’d have a sore bottom.

Now?

Husband: Do you know this is not healthy? Don’t do it again.
Me: ok

And I just don’t do it again.

That’s all.

You might ask what if I do it again. Will he spank me.

Well, I’ll just make sure I won’t do it again. Let’s all.

Time to learn to be a responsible adult :)

No-spank Experiment

In Switzerland we’ve discussed something very seriously for days.

Both my husband and I think that CDD might affect our future roles as parents when both of us want to raise our kids as confident, autonomous and responsible individuals in an environment free of spanking.

We aren’t having kids yet, but we both think it’s time to think.

So we’ve agreed to replace any form of physical punishment by “lectures” in the first half of 2018. Then we’ll review it and decide if we want to replace the “lectures” with discussions.

The nursery canes, wooden rulers and wooden paddle are still at home, but they’ll be gone by mid 2018 if it works well in the first six months.

Let’s see.

Grades out today

The GPA of my first semester in graduate school is out today.

At 8am, I logged in the system, took a deep breath then clicked “check my grades”, and the grades were right in front of me.

My husband asked me how I did this semester.

I just opened my mouth wide, at a total loss of words.

My husband then said it’s just my first semester. I can catch up next semester when I get more used to the discipline and the British system.

I turned my computer around and let him see my A, A and A-. Weighted GPA: 3.94

Then he rolled his eyes at me, but then he said “well done!”, with a smile.

You know your wife was born cheeky. Just can’t help it :P

Anniversary :)

Back to where my husband first asked me to be his girlfriend --- Switzerland.

At that time he was working there, and I was on student exchange there. One weekend after my finals I didn't have any plan, and neither did he. So we went skiiing together.

N years ago this day, Dec 21.

Now we are back here. With a glass of champagne in our hotel room, we are looking at the place where he asked me to be his gf :)

Every few years we come back here to take a selfie. My husband said when we finally grow old, we will be able to look back and talk about our good, old days and laugh about things that are only between the two of us.

Just took one selfie now. Will save it to our album with the title "growing old together".

Spank-free Holiday

Leaving for our Christmas holiday in Switzerland  tomorrow. Yay!

My husband said this will be a holiday free of spanking, but I need to use my common sense and be responsible.

What if I’m not?

"I can only assume you are. Or I’ll forgive you, and help you learn at your own pace," my husband said.

It’s the end of the year. Let us love each other unconditionally :)