No-spank Experiment

In Switzerland we’ve discussed something very seriously for days.

Both my husband and I think that CDD might affect our future roles as parents when both of us want to raise our kids as confident, autonomous and responsible individuals in an environment free of spanking.

We aren’t having kids yet, but we both think it’s time to think.

So we’ve agreed to replace any form of physical punishment by “lectures” in the first half of 2018. Then we’ll review it and decide if we want to replace the “lectures” with discussions.

The nursery canes, wooden rulers and wooden paddle are still at home, but they’ll be gone by mid 2018 if it works well in the first six months.

Let’s see.

Grades out today

The GPA of my first semester in graduate school is out today.

At 8am, I logged in the system, took a deep breath then clicked “check my grades”, and the grades were right in front of me.

My husband asked me how I did this semester.

I just opened my mouth wide, at a total loss of words.

My husband then said it’s just my first semester. I can catch up next semester when I get more used to the discipline and the British system.

I turned my computer around and let him see my A, A and A-. Weighted GPA: 3.94

Then he rolled his eyes at me, but then he said “well done!”, with a smile.

You know your wife was born cheeky. Just can’t help it :P

Anniversary :)

Back to where my husband first asked me to be his girlfriend --- Switzerland.

At that time he was working there, and I was on student exchange there. One weekend after my finals I didn't have any plan, and neither did he. So we went skiiing together.

N years ago this day, Dec 21.

Now we are back here. With a glass of champagne in our hotel room, we are looking at the place where he asked me to be his gf :)

Every few years we come back here to take a selfie. My husband said when we finally grow old, we will be able to look back and talk about our good, old days and laugh about things that are only between the two of us.

Just took one selfie now. Will save it to our album with the title "growing old together".

Spank-free Holiday

Leaving for our Christmas holiday in Switzerland  tomorrow. Yay!

My husband said this will be a holiday free of spanking, but I need to use my common sense and be responsible.

What if I’m not?

"I can only assume you are. Or I’ll forgive you, and help you learn at your own pace," my husband said.

It’s the end of the year. Let us love each other unconditionally :)

Being forgiven

The next day I woke up from a nightmare.

My husband gave me a big hug and said he’s here with me. Then I just buried my head in his arms.

He asked me what happened. He said I shouted “Help!”, a few times.

Honestly it was the stress from the incident the night before. So now the left cheek of my butt is safe. But no more late night outside until the end of this year.

Half the punishment

Promised to come home by 1am.
Ended up being 2 hours late.

Somebody got punished for drinking for too long outside :(

Hubby will cane the other cheek tomorrow morning ;(

Scary spanking position

I was supposed to meet my in-laws for dinner after my exam. My flight landed on time but I was still late for the dinner for about 45 minutes. Don't know why.

Soon after my husband and I made it home.

"Stand in that corner". My husband said.

My husband fetched the nursery cane, but after listening to my explanation he decided to give me a less severe punishment.

He then held me in his arms and put me over one of his legs and rest his foot on a chair with his knee bent.

So my legs were basically hanging in the air.

Then my husband lifted up my skirt and took down my panties and the penny was about to drop.

But then he smacked my leg and told me not to kick my legs.

45 spanks. One spank for one minute late.

Finally he put me down to the floor. Phew.

First exam in England uni

So busy after my business trip to Asia. And tomorrow I’ll have my first exam in uni and need to fly again.

I’m trying to cram these few days and it seems to work. Since I’m studying really a lot after work my husband seems to be quite pleased. No mentioning of spanking. Nothing whatsoever.

He just made a cup of ginger lemon tea for me :) “Give you some vitamin C”, he said ;)

Bare foot

I don’t like to put on my slippers at home, but my husband insisted that I should do that at least when I go to the balcony or rooftop.

Yesterday I was back home from my business trip. It’s already snowing. 20 degree difference from Asia. The first thing I did after going home was of course getting changed, and I happened to have my shoes off when going to the chilling balcony to get something.

Then...

My husband came and dragged me in :( and said I’m like a small kid.

And he said since I acted like a small kid, he should treat me as a small kid and gave me two light spanks over my pants. He said if I do that again next time he’ll spank my bare bottom and make me stand in the balcony for 3 minutes. Please don’t :(

First business trip in Asia

Going to my first business trip to Asia tonight. To a place where I don't even speak the local language.

Just checked the weather there.
18-25 degrees. Sunny. Seems to be quite comfortable.

Makes me recall my childhood when I kept moving from one country to another. Just for one week this time. How will it be like? :)

Detention experience

I'm surprised there is still physical punishment in a few states in the US, then my husband told me he grew up in one of those states.

Me: did you get any detention?
My husband: Yeah
Me: did you get spanked?
My husband: Almost, but no

It's totally unbelievable there's still paddling in some states in 2017! But it's administered over clothed bottoms, my husband added.

But still...

My husband asked about my school experience. Well, I went to school in a number of countries, and among them only Costa Rica and Singapore allowed corporal punishment in schools back then. Being a very good girl at school, I never got spanked at school :)

The only detention experience I had was in high school in the US, after finishing my GCSE in England. You wouldn't believe I was already 16 back then. Just because I was being late for school like 10 times.

I still remember in the detention I was not allowed to talk to anyone and had to copy a very strange text about "Why Americans are always late". Thank God I didn't go to a school in one of those states in which paddling was allowed.

1/4 done

Very tired having to go to England once a week to take two courses while having a very busy full-time job and taking a German class once a week (yawn~ )

I was in a very bad mood today and kept complaining the whole morning and afternoon, even when my husband was calling me through SKYPE.

I thought he'd scold me or tell me it's my choice or threaten to spank me when I'm home. He didn't.

I felt really grateful that he accepted my emotions.

He just said I'm almost done with my first semester. That's nearly 25% of the study programme.

Then he kissed me through the camera and said "you can do it!"

I like the combination of hard evidence and soft evidence that seems to be telling me I'm going to be okay.

Yay! Off to Switzerland this Christmas!

Just got the results of my German written test yesterday.

My husband said if I can get 90% we'll go to Switzerland for Christmas.

Earlier today I got my results. At the same time I got a message from my husband.

My husband asked me about my score.

Me: I actually didn't get 90
My husband: That's ok
Me: I got 93 :D
My husband: naughty girl
Me: Who? :P
My husband: lol

A2 German Test --- tomorrow!!!

I don't need German for work. I don't need German for studies. I don't need German to live a life. I'm studying German just to understand my husband more, cos he spent his early childhood in Germany.

After studying this language for 9 months, tomorrow I'll have a German test!!!

This morning my husband said if I get more than 90% he'll take me to Switzerland for Christmas :) My husband said if I prepare for my test but still get a bad score, there won't be any punishment.

I just couldn't believe what I heard. I probably had my eyes and my mouth widely opened... and my husband suddenly kissed me and gave me a cuddle and...

I whispered "Ich liebe dich" in his ear :)

Gonna continue with this after finishing my work later.

Arrived home safe and sound

In the end my husband didn't bring the paddle home. Phew (sigh of relief)

This morning when I woke up he asked me to show him my butt. I think my husband managed not to mark my bottom. He then rubbed it and said "it hurt, didn't it?" and told me to be a good girl so that he won't need to spank me at least till the end of 2017.

I hope so too.

Spanked for bad attitude

I have some German homework due next Monday. Since we're on a short trip in Eastern Europe, I wanted to get it done quickly and asked my husband to help me with my homework on reflexive pronouns in German, but he was busy and asked me to try first.

30 minutes later, he finished his work and knew that I did nothing. He demanded an explanation. I said it's just cos he didn't help me, blah blah blah.

My husband was not at all happy with my reaction.

Then, without knowing there's a paddle in the house, I was told to bend over and... paddled :(

And I was spanked on my bare bottom. I was never spanked with a paddle with holes. The pain was unimaginable.

After the first spank, I was already crying, but my husband did not want to stop.

Then another spank. Tears trailed down my cheeks immediately.

My husband then touched my butt to check the damage and announced "two more". I wanted to say noooooooooooooo but it didn't seem to be a good idea.

Finally I ended up having a red, burning bottom. My husband said he'll bring the paddle home if I'm a bad girl again this weekend. Please don't :(

"Excellent"

I might not be a very good girl at home, but at work, I've got "excellent" from my appraiser and just got a two-digit percent salary increment :)

My husband said he's going to take me to a special place to celebrate when I finish work later this afternoon. Yeah!!!

lack of motivation for my homework

Two essays due next week. 0% progress.

I told my husband I don't know how to motivate myself. I just don't feel like doing anything today, but I said the same thing yesterday.

We spent the whole day going out, relaxing and having some fun.

Then my husband said we can't be doing what we did yesterday and he wanted to "motivate" me in another way: he put a nursery cane on the table next to my computer and books (!)

He said before I'm allowed to take a break (one hour later), if he sees me play with my phone / sitting on the sofa instead of working at my desk / doing anything not related to my assignment, he'll make me understand the power of a nursery cane and the need to focus :(

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I didn't play with anything or have snacks but only answered one call and replied to two messages. Then my husband said, after I started working on my essay for one hour, that I'm not working efficiently enough.

Then he told me to stand up and gave me one stroke over my pants :(

A light stroke, luckily.

Grad school student got spanked

The result of not having done my reading last night...

Now I need to stand with my butt exposed and read as much as I can before my tutorial later this morning.

Wow! I can understand some German!

During the long commute to my uni in England every Fri, I use the in-flight wifi or roaming to watch Heidi in German during the flight and on the train.

After three weeks, I've finished watching all 52 episodes and can roughly understand what they say! Yesterday I learnt some new words like bestimmt, versprechen, lassen, etc, all used by Clara.

I've told my hubby all these and he said I'm a good girl :) Much better than when you're in a class, he said. Then I said I'm not a bad student but it's just that my teacher is strict.

My husband didn't seem to agree and gave me a light smack on my butt and said "naughty girl". Ohhhhhhhhhhh!

Work and study

Flying back home tonight. It really is not easy to work full-time while studying part-time.

The one-to-one tutorial went well. I'm really pleased the lecturer has agreed to let me meet him on Sat so I wouldn't have to take leave and fly here on a weekday.

The tutorial makes me think that I might actually need to improve my English vocabulary. As an EFL learner, I might be scoring everything perfect, but I don't use the language as naturally as I did when I was in school in England or in uni in the US. Having grown up and learnt English in school as a first language and a second language and a foreign language in 5 totally different countries, I'm occasionally confused about my language abilities.

This time I'm in England for only 30 hours but I'm already missing the much warmer weather back home. My husband said he'll pick me up from the airport --- though I'll arrive nearly midnight :)

Then I'll have to work for about 3 hours tomorrow :(

Good morning England!

Good morning England (yawn...)

My third week of studies. Lots of late nights this week cos of the endless reading assigned to me. Now I'm on my way to a one-to-one tutorial. Just hope it's going to be okay.

Then tonight I'm gonna catch up a bit with friends from secondary school :) Miss our good old days when we were boarders.

my german teacher is strict like hell

In a 3 hour German lesson...

1.

I took out my phone to jot down some notes.

In less than 5 seconds...
My teacher: kein Papier? (no paper?)
And he gave me a piece of paper.

Then a message popped up when my phone was still on the table and I had a quick look at it. I didn't reply. I did nothing.

My teacher: Jenny, keep your phone in your bag.


2.

In a conversation practice, I was trying to clarify something with my classmate.

In less than 1 minute...
My teacher: Jenny, Deutsch! Kein Englisch. (Jenny, speak German. Don't speak English)
Me: Can I ask you a question?
My teacher: Deutsch!
Me: Ich habe eine Frage. (I have a question.)

3.

I was about 20 minutes late for class because of work.

During the break...
My teacher: (In German) Why are you so late today?
Me: I got stuck in a traffic jam.
My teacher: Deutsch!
(It was very complicated. I was late for class cos I left my company later than usual and there was a lot of traffic around that time.)
Me: um... ich war im Stau.
My teacher: (In German) And what should you say?
Me: um... keine Ahnung (I've no idea)
My teacher: ...
Me: um... oh... tut mir leid (Sorry)
My teacher: Gut (Good).


I said to my husband my German teacher is strict like hell, and he said, "You should feel lucky you're not a kid anymore".

But I'm being treated like a kid. Don't you think so?

Sometimes I think it's not nice when you're 30 but you look teenage.

"You can think about becoming a model for some anti-aging skincare products later", my husband said, grinning at me.

American uni vs British uni

I went to the US for my undergraduate studies after finishing my GCSE. It's my first experience going to uni in the UK since this Oct.

I'm not sure if it's just this professor in my current uni or not, but I seem to feel that the classes are more like "lectures". Back in my uni in the US, even in lectures with 500 people, we could ask questions, make comments and debate with the professor. In the UK students tend to wait till the lecturer ask if we have any question.

Takes time to get used to this.

This time my husband knows nothing about what I'm studying. No support from him but no punishment either :)

first taste of tawse

My husband and I are supposed to be having a short trip in Scotland after my Friday class in England.

I accidentally cursed twice in England and he said I need to be punished when we arrive Scotland. Not a bare bottom hand spanking. Not a nursery cane.

When we arrived the house in Scotland, he opened a drawer and took something out.

A tawse (!)

He said last time he didn't cane me enough (!!) But it's the first time I was punished with tawse... I was hoping he wont spank me a lot.

My husband said he'll first give me 10 on my bottom with my panties on...

With the first few spanks, I was shocked and stood up because of the pain. My husband told me to keep my position or he'd start again.

Before he had given me 5 spanks, I was already sobbing.

Then he took down my panties and I said no! Please... No!

My husband said "Don't tell me no!"

And he gave me another 10 non-stop quick spanks on my already burning bottom that made me screaming non-stop. Then I was told to go straight to the corner of the living room and stand with my bottom bared.

1 hour later, our trip continued, with my very sore bottom in a skirt and no knickers for the whole day.

My husband said he'll immediately put me across his knee in the car if I curse again :(

Very sore :( I've used "vintage painting" mode to show you better the damage.

somebody "saved" me

I was supposed to be caned on my legs and butt for being impolite for the third time in a week.

A short time after it all started, like 10 seconds, my husband had a call.

My husband had to deal with the urgent matter and said I'm lucky this time, but still...

It still hurt :(

48 hours in England

Going to class. Making some new friends. Catching up with some old friends from school.

These are the three missions I have this time.

This university used to be one of the universities I wanted to get in when I was 17, but then I finally decided to study in the states.

After such a long time, I've finally made it here :)

It's not even Week 1 but the professor has already set some weekly reading :(

new term starts

Just come home, but I'm flying to England again for my postgraduate studies on Fri.

Gonna do this every week till the beginning of Dec. Then exams and loads of assignments.

It's not even the first lesson yet but I've already got a reading list that goes pages after pages.

I'm a bit excited but at the same time not sure if I'll be overloaded. Please tell me I'm going to be okay.

finally home

Flew to England for work. Stayed there the last two weeks for a project that's now done, just now. Phew (sigh of relief)

Tomorrow my husband will fly here to have a decent lunch with me, and take me home :)

This very busy period of time brings me back the memory of my days preparing for GCSE. The exams of course are not that hard if you are not aiming for A* but it was the things we did outside class that kept us busy all the time.

Now it's just like staying at a boarding school waiting to be picked up by dad and mom when the term is over.

need a break

Very busy with my job these two days. After working for almost 30 hours to deal with anurgent issue, I can finally go home. Yawn~

Luckily my husband will pick me home and help me drive my car home.

Miss the freedom in my summer.

the fun of getting married with a naughty girl :)

I'm quite picky about food and love spending money on great food and fine dining.

Last night my husband and me had dinner which was not as good as expected. I was quite disappointed. As I started to complain...

My husband: (annoyed) aren't you picky?
Me: yeah I am
Me: that's why I've picked you

And my husband grinned at me :D

"scolded" by my German teacher

There's one word in German I found quite funny. Whenever I heard the word, I had to laugh. After a few times, my teacher was like =_=

And he asked "Wie alt bist du, Jenny?" (how old are you?)

But I couldn't stop laughing.

And he said "Zehn Jahre alt?" (10 years old?)

I told my husband about this and he was like =_= too.

And then he smiled and said I'm a stupid girl.

Oh, am I?

lazy girl got punished

I promised my husband to do sports once a week and keep a record.

He checked my record today.

The last time I went jogging was one month ago. I didn't know what to say cos there's a jogging trail right opposite to where we live.

The consequence --- during and after:

Now I need to get changed and run 2000m.

Rules at home

Since Daisy has asked about the rules at my home, I'm going to share something about them. Very simple. Just 3 rules:

1. Love ourselves, love each other. Do not do anything detrimental to our own health or our marriage.

2. Use language cautiously and accurately and make sure it is appropriate for the context and the person we speak to.

3. If something is worth doing well, do it well.

It's not like if you lie you get spanked 30 times on your bottom type of rules.

Punishment comes in only if I need a strong reminder about the need to put in the effort to live a healthy life and make our marriage work.

one day getaway

My husband said I deserve a getaway after all my hard work. I had to work even overnight two days ago but my task is now done.

One day getaway before another project starts.

naughty chair

My husband said my behaviour today is good, but if I'm naughty again he'll consider getting a chair like this:

And he said he'll make me sit there facing the wall with my hands on my head / holding a bible with both of my hands above the head.

And he might make me keep the pacifier in my mouth / read aloud the lines I've written about my own offenses to make me feel ashamed of what I've done.

And he might make the timeout longer if I do not sit properly / keep moving my body.

And he might undress me leaving only my bra and panties and put a nursery cane / IKEA flat hanger on my lap which I will be punished with after the timeout.

No :( I don't want a chair like this...

"Then be a good girl" my husband said.

doubled the punishment

I still have coughing problem but I had iced tea yesterday evening. It's just irresistible in the summer. He saw it and twisted my ear once and said he'll deal with me in the morning

"Noooooooooooo!"
"Don't tell me no!.

This morning as I woke up my husband pulled down my panties and gave me a few hand spanks and said "bad girl!". I thought that's all I get until he said we had enough discussions and he's given me many chances already,

and he took these out:

Punishment with two canes (!!!)

My husband scolded and took off my pants and panties and started hitting my butt with these two nursery canes at the same time!

You can't imagine how painful it was. I covered my butt with my hands then my husband hit my legs.

Every stroke resulted in two "lines". Then my husband made me stand facing a mirror and popped a pacifier into my mouth to make me feel really ashamed of what I did.

He asked me to look myself into the mirror. Teary eyes, a pacifier in my mouth, caned marks all over my two legs and bottom.

"What did you do to earn a punishment like this?"
"Will you do it again?"

The pacifier is still in my mouth now :( I won't be allowed to remove it till lunch.

almost earned a punishment

My husband and I were in the bedroom, and he suddenly pulled the strings of my panties and it immediately fell onto the floor.

The problem was, I just had some cold lemonade, so I didn't know what this was supposed to mean.

Will he put me across his knee?
Will he hug me and take me to the bed?

Then he asked me why I looked that nervous.

I could only tell him what's on my mind, and he laughed.

No punishment just fun stuffs this time :)

But my husband said if I have cold drinks again when I still cough, he'll get a pacifier and give me a new punishment: keep the pacifier in my mouth whenever we're back to the.hotel suite so I won't be able to eat or drink.anything cold without his permission.

Omg!!!!!

Why is my husband so creative? =_=

good girl gets rewarded

Passed CFA Level 3
Taken good care of my nephew for the long weekend
Behaved well after the last big punishment

Now time for a two-day vacation :) my first time here.

when a kid can't handle his emotions

My husband said I'm good at taking care of kids.

This morning we had to leave our house. 50 mins before we did, I tried to tell my nephew we will need to leave, so he had time to get ready and say goodbye to all the toys he had at our place. 15 mins before we had to get into the car, I gave him a checklist written entirely with pictures and asked him to check if he had everything with him.

Then we left the house on time.

On the way the little boy said he wants candy, which was at my home. And he started crying...

If he's with just my husband, I can imagine he must have parked the car and scolded him. But I tried another approach.

I just said "I know you want to have candy but we don't have any candy. You feel sad. It's ok to cry. Crying makes you feel better". Then he just cried and my husband looked at me like "what the hell is this?"

30 seconds later, I asked the little boy "Have you cried enough?" "Yes"
"Do you feel better?" "Yes"

Then he stopped crying.

Good. Then I asked if he wanted to listen to a story or some music. And the car was back to peace.

Sometimes you just need to help a kid talk about his emotions and let him cool down a bit.

Maybe my husband should sometimes be more empathetic and let me calm down and don't spank me that much? ;)

have kids? no kids?

I don't cook at home ever since I've got married, but today I've made an exception.

It's quite easy to make but my husband was surprised at my creativity :)

Tada!

And the question of whether my husband and I should have our own kids has popped up again.

Freedom & flexibility VS Family

It's never easy to decide.

3-day nanny

I'm taking care of my bro's 3-year-old for three days.

Day 1. Once the little boy arrived at our home, he took off his shoes and socks and went to our bathroom to wash his hands -- all by himself. My husband and I were totally surprised.

Then it was about time for an afternoon nap. My husband asked the little one if he'd like us to read a story to him, but he asked if he's allowed to read his storybook by himself before he slept. My husband and I were surprised again.

My husband said kids in Germany normally don't learn to read till they go to school at 5-6. And I was in France around the boy's age and couldn't read till I was 4 and a half.

The language is simple, like:
"Buzz looks for woody. Andy's other toys helped".

And this takes up one whole page, in large font size with a big, colourful picture.

I said to my husband I don't know how my bro and my sis-in-law have raised such a good kid. Then my husband said yeah, he should learn from my bro and make me a better girl =_=

Well, as far as I know they never spank the boy. So spare the rod, find the kid?

a brand new day

After the painful spanking, this morning I was woken up by my husband with a kiss on my face, then he sucked my nipples and followed my spine down to my butt and my legs. And he gave me a kiss on my butt and legs, where he caned a lot yesterday :( All the cane marks are gone by now, as if nothing had happened.

My husband asked our helper to prepare a very good English breakfast for us. He then touched my face and said if I want to meet my ex-bfs in the future, there's no problem. I just tell him and we meet together. No need to lie.

He said it broke his heart when I lied to him and when he had to see me cry soooo much when I was punished :( aw...

But it's all gone. The punishment. The pain. The tears.

Now time for a good breakfast :)

a big punishment

My husband doesn't like me seeing my ex-boyfriends, no matter whether it's from as old as high school or what. But one of them happened to be here on business.

And you should know that we've managed to meet in the end. And no one could tell cos I changed his name on my phone to a girl's name. To cut the long story short, my husband found out when he heard me call another guy's name in my dream and got totally mad at me and said he'll use the nursery cane on me :(

I told him I've passed CFA, but he said that's another matter and we'll deal with things one by one. A big punishment first (!) Then he removed all my clothes, leaving only my lace panties and my bra.

The punishment started right away. No explanation was needed. And because of my period, his targets were my legs :( I was supposed to be standing to be caned, but I just couldn't help moving my body. The more I tried to stay away from the cane, the harder he hit and the more he hit (sob sob). I just cried non-stop like a baby. I bet there were tears all over my face. 

The cane hit all over my legs. And all over my butt. I still had my panties on but it didn't give me much protection. When it's finally over, my husband told me to wipe my tears and take a shower and spread some lotion over my legs and butt.

Sigh. Every caned mark still felt sore when I tried to wash myself in the shower. I dried myself with a towel and looked myself into the mirror. My butt had some patches of red. My legs had many tramlines in all directions.

When will they be gone? :(

"Now you feel embarrassed. What have you learnt from this?" My husband asked.
"Don't lie, and don't cheat" I said.

And my husband said "good".

What a painful lesson :(

maintenance "homework"

After I was spanked the other day, I happened to have learnt something like can, should, want to, must in my German class.

Then my husband made me write a few sentences with those words, to remind me that I can't drink anything cold until I have fully recovered.

This is what I have written:

I don't know how to use "when" or "if" yet. If you can read German, you should know that this is what I've written:

"I cannot drink beer. I can drink tea or water.

Maybe I should not have any ice-cream.

Today I want to have iced tea, but I am still coughing. I must wait."

So my husband doesn't give maintenance spanking but maintenance "homework".

finally stopped coughing

Still no cold beer, no iced tea, no coke yet. My husband said if I drink something cold when he's not around and start coughing again he won't spank me...

but he'll prescribe a really bitter cough medicine to me (!)

He brought home six bottles of sparkling drinks :) but I can't drink it yet :( need to wait for one week till my cough is completely gone.

well deserved spanking

Sob sob...

Drinking icy cold coke when having a cough + lying = a hard hand spanking

Everything is self-explanatory :(

consequence

Still coughing.

My husband said I'm not allowed to drink anything cold until my cough is gone, cos cold stuffs stimulate my trachea.

But I love this:

And I had a glass.

When I was helping myself with the second glass, suddenly my ear was pulled from behind (!)

"Did I make myself not clear to you?"

"Do you know you won't recover if you drink this?"

"Do you want to get spanked?"






Then my husband poured my second glass of sparkling orange juice into the sink (sob).

And he took my hand, turned it over and smacked my palm once (sob sob).


"Be a good girl. I'll buy you a few bottles of this when you stop coughing"

Flu

The last seven days I only went to work for two days. The rest of the week? I was physically on my bed, with a bottle of water, a box of tissue, my phone, all within an arm's reach.

It's funny I just learnt the expressions for going to the clinic in German the week before. My husband said next time I should learn about having a holiday or winning a lottery XD

bedtime story... lol

I've ordered some children's books in German to increase my vocabulary and improve my reading.

Something like this:

But even this is not that easy to me. Need to look up two words from the dictionary.

My husband said I should try reading it aloud but it's so hard to link up the words and put stress on the right place when you barely understand the story and pronunciation.

So my husband read a few pages to me each day... lol

As if I were a little girl.

In return I asked if he wanted me to read to him "The Rule of Law" by Lord Bingham :P

mixing up with "spanking"

I've recently learnt a new German word, Schlange.

It means queue in British English, or line in American English.

Last night I was doing my German homework, I tried to use the word, but I wrote "schlagen", and my husband was laughing uncontrollably.

"Do you know what schlagen means?" he asked.

Seems to be the German word for hit or spank =_=

"very good"

One week after my husband has agreed to stop spanking me for two weeks.

He said my behavior is "very good" :) if I get "very good" again after this week, then he'll extend the "no spanking" period for another two weeks.

my husband is the manager at home

I'm a manager when I'm at work. At home, my husband is the manager.

I listen to him and follow what he says ---- when I'm not naughty ;)

When I'm naughty, sometimes he thinks it's cute and forgives me. Sometimes he asks me to stop. Sometimes he warns me and say next time I'll be punished. Sometimes he scolds me. Sometimes he just put me across his knee. Sometimes he pulls my ear. Sometimes he asks me to pull my own ears and stand in the corner. Sometimes he fetches a cane and hit the sofa and perhaps give me a stroke or two over my pants. Sometimes he scolds me really hard and canes my bare bottom and leave some tram lines there. Sometimes he rubs my bottom with body lotion after spanking. Sometimes he doesn't even let me rub my own bottom and make me stand in the corner.

I hope he won't spank me when the two-week grace period is over :(

My husband said "this depends on your own behavior".

the last day of our holiday

Tomorrow I'll be back to work.

Sooooooooooooo relaxed these three weeks. Now I just wish I could be as free as them.

But my husband said then I won't be able to enjoy the fun of shopping for clothes, shoes, cosmetics, skincare, etc. And I won't be able to play the piano, read, do sports or go to vacations far away from Europe.

Good point ;)

Now I want to be human and go to work tomorrow.

"complained" to my husband

My husband has spanked me four times in this trip :( one light spanking, two with a balloon stick and the one at the last weekend.

I tried to hug him from behind and "complained" to him. He turned around and poked my nose and called me "naughty girl" with a smile.

But then he agreed to stop spanking me for two weeks and see.

needed to be on my best behavior

Last night my husband had to meet a very important person, and he said I could join them but I must be on my best behavior.

I did, from the way I talked to every maneuver that I had. I thought was good enough.

Except for one thing: I was late for the dinner for 15 mins. It seemed ok when I was there, but once my husband took me back to the hotel, he said I needed to be spanked :(

We're not at home but still on vacation, so he used his hand. He said my behavior during the dinner was good, but I should be punished for being late. Sigh.

I couldn't count the number of smacks he gave me. Probably hundreds.

Then he gave me "six of the best" using his flip flop.

It was hard, cos my husband's definition of "six of the best" is 1+2+3+4+5+6. I can't bring myself to work out the math. He left a few seconds between 1 and 2, 2 and 3 (and so forth) but at the same time spanked really fast and hard to create the maximum sensation of pain :(

My butt was burning.

I'm doing good :)

We're flying back to Germany to continue my vacation. My husband said if I didn't behave myself he would downgrade my flight ticket to economy class.

But we are going to fly business class now :)

Bye!

got spanked again :(

20 strokes with the balloon stick today :( they all landed on the left cheek of my butt cos my husband is left handed.

My husband said if I keep behaving like this, he'll order a nursery cane online.

Please don't :(

late for church

My husband said we were going to the morning service on Sun at 8am. We were supposed to be ready to leave our hotel at 7:30 and walk along the coast for 20 mins to get to this church in Venice.

7:15 I was still in bed. At 7:25 I finished taking a shower, and my husband was ready to leave. But I still had to get changed and make up. In the end we had to rush and were late for 1-2 mins.

I was soaking wet because of all the sweating when rushing. And so was my husband.

He almost never hit me when we're having a vacation, but this time he said I needed a good spanking for my procrastination :(

We went back to our hotel for a quick shower.

Then the moment came.

I thought my husband would spank me with his hand. But I was wrong. It was one of these.

My husband removed the balloon from one of the sticks.

Then he tried to test the stick by hitting on his own palm.

It's just a very light stick and doesn't seem to hurt as much as a bare hand or a nursery cane.

So I was relieved and took off my pants and panties and bent over touching the floor with my hands.

Then I was given 6 strokes.

But it hurt!!!!!!!



I rose by reflex before the 6th stroke landed on my bottom because of the pain and shock.

"Don't move!", my husband scolded. And he hit my leg three times.

Then he said the 6 strokes start again.

I said "noooooooooooooooo!".

But then he asked me to control myself, or he'd make me stand in the corner until I was ready for the 6 strokes.

So I shut up.

The 6 strokes were unbelievbly painful. I cried :(

It's just a hollow balloon stick but it hurt just like a nursery cane!

Why?

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I've just touched my butt and there are many tramlines! No wonder it hurt so much!

It doesn't show very well in my original picture so I switched to vintage mode to let you see it better with a reduced brightness and the yellow lens.

 It hurts :(

I'll learn to manage time well :(

relaxing

Too hot here but travelling in this place is like going to a living museum. Every angle is a picture.

I've been a good girl so nothing happened after the warning the other day :)

I must be bad in writing?

Two weeks ago I took IELTS to satisfy the language requirement of a postgraduate degree program I've applied for.

The requirement is an overall of 7.5 out of 9.0 with a subscore of no less than 6.5.

I thought it'd be easy.

Just now I checked my results...

Listening 8.5
Reading 9.0
Writing 7.0 ...phew... barely "passed"
Speaking 9.0

I thought the writing was easy. At least much easier than CFA or any exam I have taken.

"More than enough", my husband said to me with a smile.

But I'm not happy. I don't know why I got only 7.0 for writing. I thought.I did well.

Then he said it takes a bit of luck to get a good score in an exam.

Hm... I dunno.

I think he was trying to make me FEEL better cos there's nothing wrong but I was trying to THINK about why my writing score was that low.

Sorry you've got married to a perfectionist :P

warning spanks

The trip is so far so good.

My husband said I've been a good girl, except that he's not happy I never used my German even in a party full of Germans in his hometown.

But I don't have enough words to express myself.

He said I should have said at least thank you in German. At least I should have tried.

True.

So he said I need one warning spanking and took me to a study.

Closed the door and all the windows, then the moment came.

5 hand spanks on my butt.

Not that painful but I'll definitely try to use the language.

Tschüss!

here we are...

Germany :) it's funny to look around with my 3-year-old German. I've just seen an ad. I know the word "jetzt" means now, but now what? I've no clue. At the restaurant my husband talked to the waiter. I heard "ein bisschen" (a little bit), but ein bisschen what? Well, keine ahnung (no idea).

It's funny I just follow him and look at this city from a different perspective.

going away :)

After completing all those exams and projects at work, my husband and I are going away for three weeks :)

I still don't know where our destination will be, but he said I can use my 3-year-old German there.

Germany? Switzerland? Belgium?

Can't wait.

born to be good at exams

It's actually quite fun to go to an English exam. This time it's IELTS, cos I need it for the admission to a postgraduate degree course.

My husband didn't give me any pressure, cos I only need an average of 7.5 out of 9 for the admission but my practice tests seemed to suggest that I can get 8.0 to 9.0.

So I just had some fun.

Most of candidates seem to be students. Some of them seem to know each other.

The one-to-one speaking test was especially fun.

Examiner: Do you work or study?
Me: I wish I were a student.

The examiner looked a bit surprised.

Then we had a conversation on a topic which I cannot disclose here. It was just like chatting.

The second part of the test was a 1-minute impromptu, which I love doing! The topic was not an easy one like "describe your hometown" or a festival, a concert, a book that you have read or anything like that, but it's related to an area which I explored quite a bit in the last summer. I can keep talking about it for 1 hour hehe. Please call me a lucky girl :)

My husband kidded and said if I can get straight 9 for IELTS I should think about starting some online tutorials to teach people how to pass the test... lol

Anyway I still think it's cool to be a native English speaker like my husband. There's something missing in my language no matter how well I do in English exams.

I guess you'd probably agree.

british school 18 years ago = german school 50 years ago???

YouTube has suggested a related video to me: School 50 years ago

I expected something totally different from my concept of school, but I am surprised. It has quite a lot in common with my boarding school experience in England almost 15 years ago!

We had uniform in probably the same materials (just a different design, and with a tie). We had to tie our hair (no need to braid). We had to wear knee high socks in winter. We were not allowed to wear accessories or make-up. We were not allowed to smoke... so many "have to" and "not allowed"...

Then there was this headmistress' monthly room inspection in my first year in secondary school... And students being punished to do some chores in school (I was sent to the laundry department with my friend to help the staff fold the ironed school uniform for 1 hour after school every day for one week)...

It just brings me back to my old times. I didn't realize school was that tough.

Of course school lunch was different, and teachers were more encouraging than in these clips. But still, the male teacher was a bit like the discipline mistress in my school when we did something bad.

Well, I only understand about 10% of the German in the clip, but it's quite easy to follow what they were doing, probably because English school education (at least my school) was quite similar to that.

um... actually the teens seemed to be more active and spontaneous when they were filmed in a normal situation. They looked quite anxious in that school, but I guess the producer wanted to make the contrast more dramatic and that's why they called it "die Harte Schule"?

I think the programme is quite interesting even if you don't quite understand German like me. If you do, then maybe you'll like it a lot.

When school had physical punishment...

I grew up in a few countries across different continents. Except for Singapore, where I studied Grade 5 and 6, all the schools I went to had corporal punishment prohibited. I have never seen any physical punishment at school my whole life.

Since I'm learning elementary German, my husband often sends me clips with easy German. Today he shared one with me which is somehow related to this blog:

It is a simulation of a German school 100 years ago. I don't understand most of the things said, but it's easy to tell what they were doing.

My husband once told me when he went to lower primary school in Germany, young teachers never hit kids, but some old teachers brought a stick to class. I had no idea what he was talking about and what the stick was for, but now I understand.

luckily no punishment

I did something which my husband told me not to.

He noticed that and immediately came over pulled down my pants and panties, grabbed my hands and...

In just a few seconds I was in almost exactly the same situation as this kid.

I leaned closer to my husband and looked at him straight into the eyes and said sorry, sincerely.

Then he gave me one smack on my bottom.

"You don't want to get more of this, do you?"

No, definitely not.

But I didn't say anything. Just hugged my husband deeply and buried my head in his arms.



With my finger, I "wrote" I, ♥, U on his back, one by one.

He said he loves me too :)

"Now be a good girl" he said.

motivated

This post is not about punishment. I think I did well in today's six hour exam, and I feel like I have overcome a huge challenge --- until I watched this.

A touching, amazing, mesmerizing performance that I haven't seen for a while.

All my challenges now seem to be really nothing. 

Enjoy!

5 most feared non-spanking punishment

My husband doesn't only spank me. He uses a variety of punishments.

#5 copying lines

Usually 50-100 times on a single line paper. Sometimes he asks me to write with my left hand to make it hard to write quickly.

If my handwriting is not tidy, he might ask me to write again. That's the most scary part.

#4 lectured in public

This has happened a few times. Most of the time I get scolded at home. Once it was really serious I was told to stop in the middle of the street and got lectured by my husband. Somehow it reminds me of the little Prince George being told off by Kate at her sister's wedding.

#3 ear pulling

My husband does not only pull. Sometimes he also twists my ear, which can make me scream.

#2 standing pulling my own ears

Like I've said, this punishment is crazy. Basically it's just holding both of my ears with my thumb and index finger with my arm raised so that my arm and forearm makes an angle of 30 degrees. It looks effortless, and it is --- for the first 2 to 3 minutes. 5 minutes later you'll start feeling something, and 10 minutes is like torture to me. Anyone will become a good girl in less than 10 minutes.

This:

Different from the following pose that can be seen in Bollywood movies:

I had never been asked to stand holding my ears until I met my husband. At first I thought the strange pose is just meant for humiliation, but it's 100 times more tiring than "hands on the head".

I have no idea how my husband has learnt about this punishment, and I never want to bring up this topic in front of him.

#1 kneeling in front of a mirror

Humiliating and tiring, cos my husband didn't let me sit on my legs. To make life harder, my husband once asked me to hold a heavy bible above my head when I was kneeling. That 15 mins felt like forever.


There are other types of punishment like having my privilege taken away. No tv, no fb, no snacks, no coffee, no talking for 1 hour etc. But they are not as scary as the five types of punishment above.

what a writing topic...

Next Mon I'll need to take the IELTS English exam, just to satisfy the language requirements of a study programme I've applied for.

The requirement is just 7.5 out of 9. I guess I should be fine but still want to get better prepared, especially writing.

60 mins to write a short data analysis and a short argumentative essay.

So I opened a practice book and turned to Test 1.

The topic of the argumentative essay makes me totally speechless.

Not funny to somebody who was just punished last night :(

If you just replace "children" with "wives" or "girls"; "parents and teachers" with "husband"...

there are always surprises

My husband suddenly came home. 3:30am. I was still awake watching tv shows on Netflix. Not sleeping. Not working. Not studying.

He didn't even need to ask me what happened.

#1 staying up this late is not healthy. #2 when we facetimed in the afternoon I promised to go to bed by 11:30.

"Come here", my husband said.

He didn't even need to tell me what he's going to do.

I removed my panties. My husband put me across his knee and lifted my skirt up.

I'm sure you can tell what happened next.

It's my bad :(

homework when my husband is away

My husband has assigned homework, because I've recently learnt perfect tense in my German course. It's like past tense in English.

So my homework is to handwrite a short paragraph in German telling my husband what I do every day when he's away and send him a snapshot of my paragraph. My husband said if I write well he'll buy me a small gift, but there's no punishment no matter how my writing looks like as long as I've put in the effort to write.

This is the one for today. Very childish?

Enjoy reading --- if you can understand German.

Please don't punish me if I've made mistakes. I've just learnt the language for three months :)

home alone

My husband is going on business trip for a few days. I'm home alone.

Before he left home he had said "Be a good girl when I'm not around" and kissed me.

I said I will.

I have another exam coming up this Thurs anyway.

My husband has already made it clear the reward for getting a good score :)

And the punishment for getting a low score is also clear. It is not spanking but something even more horrifying: I will not be allowed to leave home for four Saturdays but stay home studying 6 hours a day with an experienced, well-qualified tutor from our church which encourages CDD. If I do not follow him well, my husband will let him hit my palm with a wooden ruler whenever he finds necessary :( And I'll need to retake the exam and pass it with a good score.

Actually I used to be quite good at taking exams when I was still in school, but I think I'd better to listen to my husband and study a lot before Thursday :)

It doesn't matter if I don't get the carrot, but I definitely don't want the stick.

fun on the beach

Got the last level of CFA done.

My husband suggested that I had this morning off and we went to the beach. Just for a walk and a nice brunch.

After the brunch we were strolling on the beach, I said I don't want to walk. Then this sweet man cuddled me and let me cling over his shoulders and waist like a baby koala :)

Then he got a bit tired said I should walk. I kissed him and said I like YOU carry me. I feel safe in your arms. And he looked very satisfied and tried to carry me over his shoulder.

It's fun to look at the beach and the sky from this angle. I giggled and told him I was drowning in his love.

Guess what my husband did?

"Wake up!", he said. 

And he smacked my bottom a few times as he said that.

I said "I'm not scared" and turned around to make a face at him.

Then he put me down and started tickling me.

So childish huh? :P Maybe sometimes we just have to forget who we are and how old we are and just have some fun.

We do loads of fun stuffs when I'm a good girl :)

what? im turning 30?

My husband has arranged a two-week trip to celebrate my birthday later this month. We often just have dinner or go on a one-day trip.

"Because it's a special year", he said.

"What's special this year? Got spanked twice as much by you?", I said.

Then he told me I'm 30 soon.

What!?

I just feel not too long ago I was still listening to Britney Spears' "I'm not a girl not yet a woman"

One day I was driving to school like I was 17 I heard it on the radio, and it described exactly how I felt... 12 years already? WOW!

I look into the mirror but I still look very much the same. I haven't put on much weight. I don't have wrinkles or something even when I smile. I still have good memory and pick things up quickly.

I'm still shocked.

Totally shocked.

30.

5 most feared spanking tools my husband has used

In these six years, we have learnt a lot and changed a lot to make our marriage work.

This change is also with the tools my husband has used to punish me when I'm not a good girl. I've just finished my CFA exam. Just hope I won't fail and get punished by any of these.

Below are the five tools that I fear the most.

#5 Hand

My husband first used an open hand but now it's always closed hand. He surely knows how to control the rhythm and made me feel very sorry.


#4 Wooden ruler

The longer it is, the more it hurts.

And it's scary to have the punishment right in front of me.

I had it a few times on my hand in my first year of marriage. Now I don't make those kind of careless mistakes but I still remember how it felt when my husband said "Hold out your hand. Palm upwards! Fingers together! Raise that hand higher!".



#3 IKEA plastic hanger

It's almost as painful as a wooden ruler, but it's used on my butt. The scariest thing is the very dramatic sound it produces. I know a strap can be a lot worse but fortunately my husband has never used them.


#2 school paddle

My husband used it two times on me, for two serious offenses. Each time he gave me 10 spanks on my bottom. It always left horrible marks on my butt for a day or two like these:

And I couldn't sit for at least a day and had to sleep on my front.


#1 canes

One flick of the cane is enough to stop almost any misbehavior immediately.

Once I threw away the nursery cane at home because I didn't want to be caned. When my husband asked me where it was, I said I had no idea, and I never touched it. The next day he found out I lied to him and got home with two nursery canes.

He put the two canes together with a rubber band and hit my bare bottom. The first stroke stung sooooooooo much that I jumped up from the floor and covered my butt with my hands by reflex and cried with shock.

I never needed the second stroke.


I know there are other implements that hurt more, like tawse, which my dad got spanked with in his boarding school in Scotland when he was a teen, or some thicker canes. My husband said he's not there to "beat the s*** out of me" but just want me to be a good girl.

how I met my husband

2007.6.3

I just finished my finals and turned in all my assignments. I went to a meeting where I met a guest speaker who also went to my university, a few years ago.

This guest speaker later became my friend, then my bf, and finally my husband.

My husband said he first saw me in this corridor.

I don't remember seeing him there, but he said I smiled at him and it melted his heart.

When we first started seeing each other, I noticed that sometimes he liked saying "listen..." to get my attention. Sometimes when I did something cheeky he kidded and said I needed to be punished. Sometimes he gave me one light smack on my bottom over my clothes.



Little did I know I would be given real punishment two years later.

I do not remember exactly why I was punished, but I cannot forget how shocked I was when he said he was going to spank me and asked me to lean across his knee. He spanked me on my bare bottom with his hand for 10 times and told me to stay in the corner of the room for 5 minutes like a poor two-year-old in the naughty corner when I was actually 20.

The beginning was a bit like Grey and Ana in Fifty Shades, except that my husband and I went to the same university, and I was always his friend / gf never a submissive before becoming his wife.

Ten years have passed after we first. Six years since we got married. Have I become a better wife? :)

carrot or stick

In less than 24 hours I'll be taking my CFA exam.

My husband said if I pass, we'll go to a special vacation in Dec. I can make one wish, and he'll make it come true :)

The passing rate in these few years is just around 50%.

If I don't pass, I'll literally get the stick :(

Please wish me luck.