Caning in Animations

My husband has sent me this for learning German. Ummmmm but just for learning German?

I don’t understand all the words in the animation but it seems that the girl sneaked out and her mom decided to cane her. Then she saved a little goat but she failed to complete 20 pages of writing which her brother had assigned to her to make her stay home. After that she brought along a birch for her mom to hit her, but her mom was probably impressed by her act of kindness for the animals and didn’t hit her. 

Ummmm I don’t know why my husband sent me this clip. My heart was beating really fast when I saw the caning part. 7 strokes on her butt!

New German expressions I’ve learnt include 

Strafe — punishment 

Daa Frühstück ist fertig—- the breakfast is ready

Weh —- painful

Strafe genug — enough punishment 

Strafe für mich —- punishment for me 

Was solle ich noch tun? — what can I still do?

Hast du nicht gehört, dass... —- have you not heard that...?

Hinter — behind (when she talked about her bottom)

Abschreiben—- Write up

Geschwollen— swollen

Du bist auf meine Seite —— you are on my side 

Etwas sag doch du — say something!

Steh hier auf den Stule, lieg die Hände auf den Tisch —- stand here on the stool and put your hands on the table (!!!)

And she did, sticking out her bottom (!)

Then the moment came :(

New semester starts

My new semester has started so I’m in England this Fri and Sat again. It’s a bit weird to be a student again, cos I do look like a student when I dress casually and I feel that I’m treated like a student.

It’s not a bad experience, and it makes me feel very young again.

It’s the best time of my life now.

Today a professor from one of my courses said, after listening to my short presentation, that I should think about pursuing a career in the field I presented today.

I thanked him for his encouragement and told him I’ve been working in that field for seven years already. I hope I didn’t surprise him. I did try to be polite.

Anyway my husband said I have been a good girl and so he has upgraded my flight back home :)

Maybe we shouldn’t have kids?

My husband and I have stopped CDD and any kind of punishment on me because we want to have kids, and we want to raise our kids in an environment free of spanking. We have agreed that we need to change our mindset, otherwise when our kids in the future behave badly we might use physical punishment on them. We definitely don’t want this to happen.

This is one month after we stopped CDD and punishment.

I live a very free and independent life. I have no behavioural problem. I still leave things till the last minute but always manage to get things done by the deadline. Yet I don’t know if it’s good.

We still love each other but it feels very different now.

The role of my husband is less important in my life now. I’m not sure if this will affect our marriage. Well, I don’t mean I want to be spanked but maybe cos we started CDD once we got married, I’m not used to not having to listening to him all the time.

I’m wondering if we should do what we used to do before and practice CDD and forget about having kids.

My very strict German teacher

After my husband stopped spanking and scolding me, my German teacher has become the “strictest” person I face.

I’m used to a very relaxed and free learning classroom environment since I was little. There I can express my opinions freely and the whole class chats a lot together even during the lessons.

It’s not the case in my German class.

“Jenny!”

“Kein Small-talk”

“Schhhhhhh...”

My German teacher didn’t tell me off, but I got “warned” a lot :( like “Jenny! Schhhhhhh...”

Will you dislike me because we’re not practicing CDD anymore?

My husband and I decided to stop practicing CDD and any form of punishment on me last month.

Since then I had procrastinated a few times and didn’t work on the tasks until the last minute, but I still managed to make the deadline. So far our spanking-free life has been good.

After all we are making this change for our kids in the future. We want to get into the mindset that it’s okay for our children to make mistakes and learn from the mistakes without the threat of physical punishment. And my role as a mom is a role of a mature adult so I can’t be a little girl that’s “parented” and regularly disciplined by my husband. The role of my husband, on the other hand, supports the family with me. He’s not a disciplinarian but a decisive, loving parent. This is our vision of a family.

Initially when I started this blog I wrote about the punishment I got from my husband. I think it’s okay for a couple. But when we started thinking about having kids, we thought twice and had lots of discussions and decided that we want a loving, supportive home without spanking for our future kids.

I hope you won’t dislike me because of this change of roles.

When my husband and I first got married, I was very young. We followed what his church suggested about CDD and started to be disciplined. I got spanked a lot on my bare bottom by his hand and over my pants with a ruler in our first year of marriage. As years went by, it became about once a month or a few times a year. Then last year I was spanked a lot and even caned with  a nursery cane many times because of my bad behaviour caused by my graduate school studies, a very busy job, a lack of time for leisure  and so on. At one point even my husband thought we should think again about how to make a loving couple.

In the end we wanted to see if we can still live our life normally without any form of punishment. We wanted to learn how to love each other without any condition and respect each other as an adult.

We have to change our beliefs for our kids in the future, and it takes time for us to learn, adapt and change.

Please wish me luck.

Woke up and found my pants being taken down

As the caption shows, that’s what happened to me this morning. Weird.

I looked at my husband and asked if he wanted to spank me again.

No, it’s you who took down your own pants. He told me.

What?

Ok, now I seem to remember. I had a strange dream, in which I was punished, like what we used to have before the last Christmas.

And what was my husband’s next reaction?

Can you guess?
A. “So you really want to be spanked? I can make you feel very sorry”
B. “Don’t be silly”
C. Said nothing






The answer is C, and he gave me a hug. I guess he can easily do what’s said in A, but we really are trying very hard to prepare ourselves to become good, loving parents in the future.

Dealing with procrastination with strategies

It’s hard to bring myself to start working on a job assignment. I have been quite unproductive these days.

I told my husband my problem.

He said if this happened in 2017, he’d fetch the cane and I’ll have a very sore behind, and I’ll start working right away with my pants taken down, and I get more spanking if I get distracted again. But we’ve agreed to change our way of thinking...

He suggested that I
Break down the job into a few parts and do it bit by bit by focusing on one thing at a time so I don’t get distracted. Make a plan and take a short break after getting each part properly done.

My husband said I shouldn’t tell him how I’m going to do it. I need to decide on my own.

2017: immediate punishment
2018: Problem-based strategies

Will it work?

Let’s see.

Calling my name

No punishment after our long, serious discussion at Christmas. It’s because we really want to learn to create a spanking-free environment for our future children. This won’t come overnight, and the first thing is to change the way we interact.

But you know it’s hard to change dramatically from being disciplined with nursery cane and paddle and hand spanking on bare bottom to not being disciplined—- at all.

We have adopted these two methods:
1. Keep a journal and write down whatever happens during the day. Both of us do it, and we don’t need to exchange our journals at all. Somebody called it a cognitive way to help oneself reflect and take control of his/her own life

2. When my husband thinks I’m being a bad girl he’d keep a straight face and call my name, like “Jenny!”. No consequence but just a hint. My husband said eventually we’ll get rid of this, but let’s make it a temporary measure for now.

So far they have worked.

No spanking so what’s next?

Back home from holiday.

No mood for doing anything at all. Totally holiday mood.

My husband is back to work but I’m working from home these two weeks. Then my husband came home and saw paper bags from Mc Donald’s.

Honestly I had it three times in one day. Too lazy to cook.

If this happened in 2017 I’d have a sore bottom.

Now?

Husband: Do you know this is not healthy? Don’t do it again.
Me: ok

And I just don’t do it again.

That’s all.

You might ask what if I do it again. Will he spank me.

Well, I’ll just make sure I won’t do it again. Let’s all.

Time to learn to be a responsible adult :)